Finding out your partner is having an affair is probably the most devastating thing that could happen to you. Cheating shatters the core of your existence leaving you with feelings of betrayal, rejection, fear, mistrust, grief and anger. It damages your sense of self and leaves you overwhelmed with what to do next. You’re in allot of pain and confused right now. You don’t have to suffer through this alone.
With the right Therapist couples can find their way to a deeper and more intimate bond after an affair despite the feelings of wanting to leave or fantasizing about a divorce. Notable author and Therapist Ester Perel states, “an affair doesn’t necessarily end a marriage and can possibly make it stronger.”
Recovering from infidelity involves the willingness of unfaithful spouses to demonstrate sincere regret and remorse.
As a Marriage Counselor and Infidelity Specialist I have specific training and experience to help explain the sources of infidelity and offer sound and sensible guidelines for mending your relationship. For those of you who are going through the hurt and betrayal of infidelity I am able to help you cope with the raging emotions, make a thoughtful decision about your future, and if you choose to recommit, reclaim a life together.
The couples I work with either 1) relive their trauma and bitterness over and over again, 2) revert to the status of life before the affair, or 3) have the affair become a transformational experience and catalyst for renewal and change for moving forward. Couples can survive infidelity, provided both partners are willing to look honestly at themselves and at each other and acquire the tools needed to guide them through such a shattering crisis.
If you’re struggling with wondering what to do next and asking yourself the question.....”Should I Stay Or Should I Go?,” please call me at (858) 735-1139. I can help you with options to make the right decision for you and your family.