Think your partner is cheating? There are certain red flags that often signal a partner could be having an affair. When your everyday predictable partner who spends most of his time in T-shirts and old jeans all of a sudden starts working out more and buys expensive fashionable outfits, red flags should go up. Also be on the look out for sudden shifts in your partner’s behavior, whether negative or positive. If your partner suddenly becomes very critical of you he or she may be trying to start an argument and set you up as the person at fault. As when partners become unnecessarily generous with gifts, this often is a sign of guilt as they are doing something inappropriate.
As a Marriage Counselor specializing in Affair Recovery here are some guidelines I recommend to help you address your concerns:
- Discuss It.
- Don’t confront him or her until you know what you will do with the information.
- Do you really want to know the truth or are you just hoping for reassurance?
- Don’t make the decision to divorce too quickly, or you will forever second guess yourself.
- If you do decide to stay, it will take a couple of years for the relationship to recover if both partners are committed to working on it.
- Seek the help of a professional who specializes in Infidelity and Affair Recovery.
Even if you don’t have hard evidence that your partner may be cheating, you have the right to bring up your fears and suspicions with your mate. Instead of playing amateur detective, save yourself the stress and anxiety of spying on your partner and be forthright — you deserve honest answers. In Marriage Counseling I emphasize trust and communication are the foundations of a good relationship, and your concerns need to be addressed — whether or not your partner is actually unfaithful. Your gut instinct is usually right, so you need to find out what is going on.
If you need help with talking to you partner about this subject or want more information about cheating partners please contact me at (858) 735-1139