Sex on the Beach Isn't just a Cocktail for my Couples

Do You Have Sexual Intelligence?

Do You Have Sexual Intelligence?  There’s a difference between knowing how to have sex and having intelligence about sex.  Some people don’t understand either.  As a Marriage Counselor, my couples want sex to be natural and spontaneous.  All the planets have to align before wanting to engage in sex.  Many don’t care for the idea … Read more

Different Kinds Of Affairs

Different Kinds Of Affairs.  As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Affair Recovery Specialist, I am often asked why people have affairs.  There is no one size fits all answer to that question.  There are many different reasons people have affairs. The impact on the lives of those who practice infidelity is huge.  It violates … Read more

The Pain Of Infidelity

The Pain Of Infidelity.  The single most destructive threat to committed relationships in San Diego and throughout the entire world is when one of the partners engages in a sexual relationship with another person. This is not an uncommon event. Conservative estimates suggest that about a quarter of women, and a third of men, have … Read more

Do You Think You Want An Open Marriage?

Do You Think You Want An Open Marriage?  Some people think open marriages are another form of affairs, infidelity or betrayal, that lead to the demise of the marriage.  Some people believe open marriages can be hurtful and damaging to relationships in general.  Open marriages and polyamory are being talked about more so than ever … Read more

Polyamory Or Monogamy Which One Is For You?

Polyamory or Monogamy Which One Is For You?  Polyamory means having simultaneous close emotional and possibly sexual relationships with two or more other individuals with the knowledge and consent of all partners concerned.  The growing practice of polyamory in the United States indicates a significant shift in the way marriage and intimate relationships have evolved … Read more

Back To School – Reclaim Your Intimacy

Back To School – Reclaim Your Intimacy.  Summer’s over and it’s time to concentrate on “us”.  With the completion of Labor Day, Summer is officially over.  The new school year has begun.  The children are no longer around to act as a diversion to you and your spouse spending one on one time together.  Summer … Read more

Dating Tips For Singles In San Diego

Dating Tips For Singles In San Diego.  Dating isn’t as easy as it appears.  Interacting with people can be quite nerve-racking.  It can be uncomfortable and devastating to even begin a conversation.  If you didn’t have anyone role model or teach you how to interact with someone you’re interested in how would you know what … Read more

Is Your Relationship Romantic Enough?

Is Your Relationship Romantic Enough?  Remember when you and your partner were first dating? Things were new and exciting.  There was a great deal of effort being put forth to keep each other interested.  Over a period of time, long-term relationships can experience lack of fulfillment as boredom can set in after the “honeymoon period.” … Read more

Sex No Matter What Your Age

Sex No Matter What Your Age.  Sex is not only for the young.  With better understanding and an open mind sex for us “Baby Boomers” can continue to be physically and emotionally fulfilling.  I’m going to be sixty years old next year and just like everyone else in my age bracket I worry about sex in … Read more

Do You “Come” As You Are?

Do You “Come” As You Are?  The book entitled “Come As You Are” by Emily Nagoski is a New York bestseller that sheds new science that transforms women’s sex lives.  It gives us all a newfound awareness about and respect for everyone’s sexual autonomy.  What works to maximize a woman’s sexual well-being is not the … Read more