Sex on the Beach Isn't just a Cocktail for my Couples

Are Open Marriages Happier Marriages?

Are Open Marriages Happier Marriages?  There’s an article in the New York Times that share the experiences of nonmonogamous couples and what they say about love and trust http://nyti.ms/2q5fqrA  I found the article very interesting and appreciated both the author’s perspective and the couples’ story about their marriages.  As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I … Read more

Why Some Women Wear Makeup

Why Some Women Wear Makeup.  Like my past blogs, entitled, “Why Some Women Wear Red Lipstick” and “Why Some Women Wear High Heels”, I’m sharing my perspective on why some women wear makeup, myself included.  Depending on how little girls were raised, wearing makeup can be encouraged or discouraged.  In my case, my mother didn’t … Read more

Women And Independence – Your Sex Life Depends On It

Women And Independence – Your Sex Life Depends On It.  It’s wonderful being a woman.  I grew up in an Asian culture where being a woman was not held in high regard to that of a man.  I’m sure is the way in most cultures. Growing up in a Patriarchy society little girls are raised … Read more

The Secret Ingredient To Transform Your Sex Life

The Secret Ingredient To Transform Your Sex Life.  Heard of the “pink pill” for women referred to as female Viagra?  Researchers, scientists, and sex therapists have spent decades providing us information about what creates sexual desire, what turns people on and off, how to have an orgasm, how to have a great orgasm, and sexual … Read more

The Difference Between Good Sex and Hot Sex

The Difference Between Good Sex and Hot Sex.  Are you happy with your sex life?  If you’ve been married for many years or are in a long-term relationship sex can become routine and even boring. Worse yet “vanilla” sex is not very fun.  Sure you get off (climax), but you can do that through masturbation.  As … Read more

How To Have The “I’d Like To Open Up Our Marriage” Conversation?

How To Have The “I’d Like To Open Up Our Marriage” Conversation?  Have you been married for a couple of decades or been in a long-term relationship and your love life has flatlined?  You’ve heard of people “swinging” or even, worse, having affairs, to spice up their sex life.  Rather than cheat, having a conversation … Read more

Raising Mentally Healthy Children After Divorce

Raising Mentally Healthy Children After Divorce.  After my divorce in 1991, I thought I was the worst person in the world.  After 9 years of marriage, investing emotionally in two families who cared about us for a total of 16 years, and a three-year-old daughter who meant the world to the whole family, I decided … Read more

Improving Your Marriage

Improving Your Marriage.  The first step in improving your marriage takes recognizing one’s part in conflict that may come up at any given time.  It takes awareness of one aspect of your relationship: patterns. A pattern is a combination of qualities, acts, or tendencies that form a predictable sequence of outcomes in your marriage. The … Read more

Women Maintain Your Sense Of Self

Women Maintain Your Sense Of Self.  As little girls, we are socialized to be the “good little girl” in that we are supposed to follow what our parents and society tell us to do.  We have our own stories that we take with us into adulthood.  This is what I heard while growing up in … Read more

Do I Go To Cabo With My Husband Or My Boyfriend?

Do I Go To Cabo With My Husband Or My Boyfriend?  Choosing who to go on vacation with can be a difficult decision.  I am a married woman and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  I have been working with couples for over 23 years.  I specialize in Affair Recovery and developing New Monogamy agreements. … Read more