How To Successfully Raise Messed Up Kids. How many of you said, “when I have kids I’m not going to do what my parents did to me?” As a Marriage and Family Therapist I have worked with these same parents over the past 21 years who don’t mean to repeat history but often times do. How are we suppose to know what to do if our parenting was inappropriate?
Throughout my 21 years of providing Marriage and Family Counseling the article below affirms types of behaviors that can screw up your kids emotional well being.
Again, I hear parents say, “I’d die for my kids or I’d do anything for them.” Yet they won’t even take an 8-week parenting class to enhance what parenting skills they do have. We all have triggers from our growing up days. We don’t have to act them out on our loved ones. If we choose to act them out rather than appropriately manage them to the well being of the greater good, then, what does that say about YOU?!
Conscientious and caring parents educate themselves and acquire the necessary tools to become mature people. Knowing what developmental stage their child or teen is in and what that stage needs from them is important so that parents knows how to guide their children in the right direction to become independent, self-sufficient, reliable, upstanding community members.
http://www.heysigmund.com/developmental-stage/ Shares an Age by Age Guide for What to Expect From Kids & Teens And What They Need From Us
As a Marriage and Couples Counselor and parent of 27-year-old and 15-year-old daughters I believe giving positive and negative reinforcement to have been helpful in directing and redirecting behavior. Along with giving them the opportunity to make their own choices given they were not harmful to themselves or others helped develop independence and trust. My older daughter is a practicing attorney in Colorado and my youngest is enjoying 10th grade in the top 10% of her class, plays the cello and piano and has friends she enjoys who enjoys her company, as well. They know what is expected of them and I don’t bug them having to be the naggy mother. For more information on how not to screw up your kid please call me at (858) 735-1139 I know I can help.