Sex on the Beach Isn't just a Cocktail for my Couples

Caught Cheating? Now What?

Caught Cheating? Now What? You’ve just discovered your husband/wife is having an affair.  What do you do now?  Confess or deny?  As a Marriage Counselor, I see couples whose spouse has just been caught cheating and are at a crossroads in either being able to minimize or worsen the situation by continuing to lie, become … Read more

Different Kinds Of Affairs

Different Kinds Of Affairs.  As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Affair Recovery Specialist, I am often asked why people have affairs.  There is no one size fits all answer to that question.  There are many different reasons people have affairs. The impact on the lives of those who practice infidelity is huge.  It violates … Read more

The Pain Of Infidelity

The Pain Of Infidelity.  The single most destructive threat to committed relationships in San Diego and throughout the entire world is when one of the partners engages in a sexual relationship with another person. This is not an uncommon event. Conservative estimates suggest that about a quarter of women, and a third of men, have … Read more

Once A Cheater Always A Cheater

Once A Cheater Always A Cheater.  This statement isn’t always true.  Some women whose husbands have cheated on them tend to think so.  As a Marriage Counselor working with couples for over 22 years I believe some infidelities are isolated incidents.  Men cheat for a variety of reasons.  Some are labeled as Philanderers.  These men … Read more

The Crisis of Infidelity Part II

The Crisis of Infidelity Part II.  There are different types of affairs San Diego Couples experience as they enter Marriage and Couples Counseling to deal with the effects of what their behaviors have attributed to their relationships. Types of Affairs Life Transitions Relationships go through stages involving loss and then gain – and each of … Read more

Facts About Infidelity

Facts About Infidelity.  As a Marriage Counselor I’ve been working with Couples for 22 years.  Some are married and some are not.  Some are happy others are not.  Just because you have a marriage certificate doesn’t  mean your relationship is safe from the trials and tribulations of what it takes to make a relationship work. … Read more

If Your Husband Is Cheating

If Your Husband Is Cheating.  Do you think your husband is cheating?  Facing this reality can be scary. Finding out your husband is cheating is one of the toughest things to go through in a marriage.  If you’re uncertain and suspect your spouse may be having an affair the following are guidelines to help initiate … Read more

Affair Proof Your Marriage

Affair Proof Your Marriage.  As a Marriage Counselor working in Affair and Infidelity Recovery I work with couples who made the terrible mistake of cheating and now are left experiencing confusion and panic as they don’t know what to do to move forward and remedy what they have just done. No doubt affairs can provide … Read more

Marriages Can Survive Infidelity

Marriages Can Survive Infidelity.  Affairs can heal broken marriages and even reveal relationship dysfunction.  Renowned Author and Sex Therapist Tammy Nelson and respected Colleague provides a 3-step process for Recovering from Infidelity that I implement in working with my Couples in Marriage Counseling that is highly effective in helping them move forward.  As a Marriage … Read more

Affair Recovery

Affair Recovery.  My cheating spouse doesn’t understand that saying, “I’m sorry” just isn’t good enough.  Neither is saying, “I’m really sorry.” Finding out your partner is having an affair is probably the most devastating thing that could happen to you. Cheating shatters the core of your existence leaving you with feelings of rejection, mistrust, anger, … Read more