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Ringing In The New Year With A New Monogamy

Ringing In The New Year With A New Monogamy.  What exactly is a New Monogamy?  Monogamy is defined as the practice or state of being married to one person at a time or having a sexual relationship with only one partner.  Some literature on affair recovery suggests that infidelity is a symptom of some fundamental … Read more

Holiday Blues – What To Do About Them

Holiday Blues – What To Do About Them. The holidays are bombarded with expectations.  Expectations that include past years of nostalgia or disappointment. For some people, the holidays are a time of great challenges.  For whatever reason situations have changed for them making the Holidays a time of unhappiness and loneliness. Baby Boomers remember Charlie Brown … Read more

Visiting Your Crazy Family For Christmas?

Visiting Your Crazy Family For Christmas?  Dysfunctional Families And The Holidays. Who doesn’t have a dysfunctional family?  That’s a rhetorical question. Having a “normal” family can be considered dysfunctional.  But seriously dysfunctional families can be detrimental to emotional well-being and we all know what I’m talking about.  As a Marriage Counselor, the Holidays present a … Read more

Managing Holiday Stress – A Smile Can Get You Everywhere

Managing Holiday Stress – A Smile Can Get You Everywhere.  As we enter the month of November I start to think about Thanksgiving and everything I’m thankful for.  As a Marriage Counselor, I see a range of couples from eternally happy wanting to continue to keep their relationship in check to those who are constantly … Read more

Caught Cheating? Now What?

Caught Cheating? Now What? You’ve just discovered your husband/wife is having an affair.  What do you do now?  Confess or deny?  As a Marriage Counselor, I see couples whose spouse has just been caught cheating and are at a crossroads in either being able to minimize or worsen the situation by continuing to lie, become … Read more

The Masks We Hide Behind

The Masks We Hide Behind. Do You Hide Behind A Pseudo Self?  We all have a true self or a false self also known as a pseudo self. Carl Jung the Swiss Psychiatrist and Psychoanalyst define Personas as the mask or shield which a person places between himself and the people around him.  In honor … Read more

The “I’m Not In Love With You” Statement

The I love you, but, “I’m Not In Love With You” Statement.  Couples often come into Marriage Counseling with many different reasons why they don’t get along. Communication is a big issue as most people are unable to say what they need to say to one another.  They could be conflict avoidant, meaning rather than … Read more

Do You Have Sexual Intelligence?

Do You Have Sexual Intelligence?  There’s a difference between knowing how to have sex and having intelligence about sex.  Some people don’t understand either.  As a Marriage Counselor, my couples want sex to be natural and spontaneous.  All the planets have to align before wanting to engage in sex.  Many don’t care for the idea … Read more

Different Kinds Of Affairs

Different Kinds Of Affairs.  As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Affair Recovery Specialist, I am often asked why people have affairs.  There is no one size fits all answer to that question.  There are many different reasons people have affairs. The impact on the lives of those who practice infidelity is huge.  It violates … Read more

The Pain Of Infidelity

The Pain Of Infidelity.  The single most destructive threat to committed relationships in San Diego and throughout the entire world is when one of the partners engages in a sexual relationship with another person. This is not an uncommon event. Conservative estimates suggest that about a quarter of women, and a third of men, have … Read more