Improving Your Marriage

Improving Your Marriage.  The first step in improving your marriage takes recognizing one’s part in conflict that may come up at any given time.  It takes awareness of one aspect of your relationship: patterns. A pattern is a combination of qualities, acts, or tendencies that form a predictable sequence of outcomes in your marriage. The … Read more

Women Maintain Your Sense Of Self

Women Maintain Your Sense Of Self.  As little girls, we are socialized to be the “good little girl” in that we are supposed to follow what our parents and society tell us to do.  We have our own stories that we take with us into adulthood.  This is what I heard while growing up in … Read more

Long Distance Relationships

Long Distance Relationships.  Do long distance relationships work out? About 20 years ago I was in a long-distance relationship with a guy who lived in another country.  We met while he was doing business in San Diego and when deciding to date each other we did the standard taking turns visiting each other arrangement.  As … Read more

Why Some Women Wear High Heels

Why Some Women Wear High Heels.  Last month I wrote about why some women wear red lipstick.  Red lipstick and wearing high heels can imply a sexual connotation to some people.  But can wearing high heels be an implicit invitation to sex?  In an article entitled, “The Psychology of High Heels,” by Michael Castleman, he … Read more

People Who Dump and The People Who Get Dumped

People Who Dump and The People Who Get Dumped AKA The Dumpers and The Dumpees.  Breakups are easiest for couples who decide mutually to end the relationship.  In most cases when a relationship ends there typically is a person who initiates the breakup and a person who wants the relationship to continue, referred to as … Read more

Boundaries in Relationships

Boundaries in Relationships.  Learning to have healthy boundaries is an appropriate part of a stable relationship. It means coming to know ourselves and increasing our awareness of what we stand for. It also means self-acceptance and knowing that we are OK as we are and worthy of good things in life. When two people with … Read more

Refresh A Stagnate Relationship

Refresh A Stagnate Relationship.  Spring is here and just as we do Spring cleaning around our house it’s important to do a Spring cleaning with our relationship.  What works and what doesn’t?  Take inventory and talk about what you like and don’t like about your interaction with one another.  What is making you happy and … Read more

Developing A New Monogamy

Developing A New Monogamy.  So what exactly is a New Monogamy?  Monogamy is defined as the practice or state of being married to one person at a time or having a sexual relationship with only one partner.  Some literature on affair recovery suggests that infidelity is a symptom of some fundamental problem in a marriage … Read more

Is It Time To Do A New Monogamy?

Is It Time To Do A New Monogamy? Is It Time To Move Your Relationship Into A New Monogamy? We’re in the 21st Century.  We don’t have the marriages our parents or our grandparents had.  There are less people married now than the past 30 years.  Many people are marrying later in life and 40% … Read more

Is Non-Monogamy Infidelity?

Is Non-Monogamy Infidelity?  What is Infidelity?  Infidelity is the action of being unfaithful to a spouse or other sexual partner. When spouses find out about their partner’s infidelity they say it’s the worst feeling they’ve had to endure. When the infidelity is disclosed; meaning the person confesses, the feeling is devastating and surreal.  When the infidelity … Read more