Sex on the Beach Isn't just a Cocktail for my Couples

Managing Holiday Stress – A Smile Can Get You Everywhere

Managing Holiday Stress – A Smile Can Get You Everywhere.  As we enter the month of November I start to think about Thanksgiving and everything I’m thankful for.  As a Marriage Counselor, I see a range of couples from eternally happy wanting to continue to keep their relationship in check to those who are constantly … Read more

The Masks We Hide Behind

The Masks We Hide Behind. Do You Hide Behind A Pseudo Self?  We all have a true self or a false self also known as a pseudo self. Carl Jung the Swiss Psychiatrist and Psychoanalyst define Personas as the mask or shield which a person places between himself and the people around him.  In honor … Read more

The “I’m Not In Love With You” Statement

The I love you, but, “I’m Not In Love With You” Statement.  Couples often come into Marriage Counseling with many different reasons why they don’t get along. Communication is a big issue as most people are unable to say what they need to say to one another.  They could be conflict avoidant, meaning rather than … Read more

Different Kinds Of Affairs

Different Kinds Of Affairs.  As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Affair Recovery Specialist, I am often asked why people have affairs.  There is no one size fits all answer to that question.  There are many different reasons people have affairs. The impact on the lives of those who practice infidelity is huge.  It violates … Read more

The Pain Of Infidelity

The Pain Of Infidelity.  The single most destructive threat to committed relationships in San Diego and throughout the entire world is when one of the partners engages in a sexual relationship with another person. This is not an uncommon event. Conservative estimates suggest that about a quarter of women, and a third of men, have … Read more

Polyamory Or Monogamy Which One Is For You?

Polyamory or Monogamy Which One Is For You?  Polyamory means having simultaneous close emotional and possibly sexual relationships with two or more other individuals with the knowledge and consent of all partners concerned.  The growing practice of polyamory in the United States indicates a significant shift in the way marriage and intimate relationships have evolved … Read more

How To Be Around An Angry Partner

How To Be Around An Angry Partner.  As a Marriage Counselor I work with individuals who come in needing help with an angry wife or husband who has shut down and refuses to talk or fires landmine responses.  For this individual it can be very frustrating as being on the other end of unkind behavior … Read more