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Different Kinds Of Affairs

Different Kinds Of Affairs.  As a Marriage and Family Therapist and Affair Recovery Specialist, I am often asked why people have affairs.  There is no one size fits all answer to that question.  There are many different reasons people have affairs. The impact on the lives of those who practice infidelity is huge.  It violates … Read more

The Pain Of Infidelity

The Pain Of Infidelity.  The single most destructive threat to committed relationships in San Diego and throughout the entire world is when one of the partners engages in a sexual relationship with another person. This is not an uncommon event. Conservative estimates suggest that about a quarter of women, and a third of men, have … Read more

The Crisis of Infidelity Part II

The Crisis of Infidelity Part II.  There are different types of affairs San Diego Couples experience as they enter Marriage and Couples Counseling to deal with the effects of what their behaviors have attributed to their relationships. Types of Affairs Life Transitions Relationships go through stages involving loss and then gain – and each of … Read more

Affair Proof Your Marriage

Affair Proof Your Marriage.  As a Marriage Counselor working in Affair and Infidelity Recovery I work with couples who made the terrible mistake of cheating and now are left experiencing confusion and panic as they don’t know what to do to move forward and remedy what they have just done. No doubt affairs can provide … Read more

Is An Emotional Affair Worse Than A Sexual Affair?

Is An Emotional Affair Worse Than A Sexual Affair?  Just because you didn’t have sexual intercourse doesn’t mean it wasn’t an affair.  An affair is the act of behaving unfaithfully and cheating on a spouse or significant other.  As a Couples Counselor I believe it is a breach of fidelity when inappropriate relationships and behaviors … Read more

Infidelity Knows No Boundaries

Infidelity Knows No Boundaries.  It’s all over the news and media that Donald Trump intends to smear Hillary Clinton’s presidential campaign by dredging up her husband’s past infidelities while he doesn’t even have a clean slate when it comes to faithfulness in marriage.  As the information reads, Trump too has had an infidelity in the form … Read more

Affair Recovery

Affair Recovery.  My cheating spouse doesn’t understand that saying, “I’m sorry” just isn’t good enough.  Neither is saying, “I’m really sorry.” Finding out your partner is having an affair is probably the most devastating thing that could happen to you. Cheating shatters the core of your existence leaving you with feelings of rejection, mistrust, anger, … Read more

Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity

Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity.  Couples who come into see me after a breach of trust due to some kind of infidelity; whether they were caught having intimate conversations with an old high school sweetheart online, new friend from a chatroom, or having a full blown sexual affair, ask the question “how can I ever trust … Read more

What Is Erotic Recovery

What Is Erotic Recovery.  An essential part of helping Couples move forward in Affair Recovery is the restoration of Erotic Recovery.  Infidelity and affairs cause Erotic Injury to the relationship.  Erotic Injury is where the Hurt Partner experiences an undermining of erotic confidence due to the infidelity creating damage between both parties.  According to Dr. … Read more

Affairs and Apologies

Affairs and Apologies.  When working with couples where one partner has betrayed the other about an ongoing affair the deceived partner (Hurt Partner) is always looking for a sincere apology. The Affair Partner (the person who had the affair) often rushes through the process of healing with minimal expression of guilt. Frequently, they will make excuses, avoid discussing the … Read more