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The Pain Of Infidelity

The Pain Of Infidelity.  The single most destructive threat to committed relationships in San Diego and throughout the entire world is when one of the partners engages in a sexual relationship with another person. This is not an uncommon event. Conservative estimates suggest that about a quarter of women, and a third of men, have … Read more

The Crisis of Infidelity

The Crisis of Infidelity.  The single most destructive threat to committed relationships in San Diego and throughout the entire world is when one of the partners engages in a sexual relationship with another person. This is not an uncommon event. Conservative estimates suggest that about a quarter of women, and a third of men, have … Read more

What To Do After An Affair Is Discovered

What To Do After An Affair Is Discovered.  You’ve just discovered your husband/wife is having an affair. You’re flushed with a range of emotions and are feeling pretty vulnerable right about now.  You’re probably overwhelmed thinking your relationship and life as you know it is over.  As a Marriage Counselor specializing in Affair Recovery I … Read more

Affair Proof Your Marriage

Affair Proof Your Marriage.  As a Marriage Counselor working in Affair and Infidelity Recovery I work with couples who made the terrible mistake of cheating and now are left experiencing confusion and panic as they don’t know what to do to move forward and remedy what they have just done. No doubt affairs can provide … Read more

Is An Emotional Affair Worse Than A Sexual Affair?

Is An Emotional Affair Worse Than A Sexual Affair?  Just because you didn’t have sexual intercourse doesn’t mean it wasn’t an affair.  An affair is the act of behaving unfaithfully and cheating on a spouse or significant other.  As a Couples Counselor I believe it is a breach of fidelity when inappropriate relationships and behaviors … Read more

Infidelity Knows No Boundaries

Infidelity Knows No Boundaries.  It’s all over the news and media that Donald Trump intends to smear Hillary Clinton’s presidential campaign by dredging up her husband’s past infidelities while he doesn’t even have a clean slate when it comes to faithfulness in marriage.  As the information reads, Trump too has had an infidelity in the form … Read more

Marriages Can Survive Infidelity

Marriages Can Survive Infidelity.  Affairs can heal broken marriages and even reveal relationship dysfunction.  Renowned Author and Sex Therapist Tammy Nelson and respected Colleague provides a 3-step process for Recovering from Infidelity that I implement in working with my Couples in Marriage Counseling that is highly effective in helping them move forward.  As a Marriage … Read more

Affair Recovery

Affair Recovery.  My cheating spouse doesn’t understand that saying, “I’m sorry” just isn’t good enough.  Neither is saying, “I’m really sorry.” Finding out your partner is having an affair is probably the most devastating thing that could happen to you. Cheating shatters the core of your existence leaving you with feelings of rejection, mistrust, anger, … Read more

Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity

Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity.  Couples who come into see me after a breach of trust due to some kind of infidelity; whether they were caught having intimate conversations with an old high school sweetheart online, new friend from a chatroom, or having a full blown sexual affair, ask the question “how can I ever trust … Read more

Affairs and Apologies

Affairs and Apologies.  When working with couples where one partner has betrayed the other about an ongoing affair the deceived partner (Hurt Partner) is always looking for a sincere apology. The Affair Partner (the person who had the affair) often rushes through the process of healing with minimal expression of guilt. Frequently, they will make excuses, avoid discussing the … Read more