Women Maintain Your Sense Of Self

Women Maintain Your Sense Of Self.  As little girls, we are socialized to be the “good little girl” in that we are supposed to follow what our parents and society tell us to do.  We have our own stories that we take with us into adulthood.  This is what I heard while growing up in … Read more

Do I Go To Cabo With My Husband Or My Boyfriend?

Do I Go To Cabo With My Husband Or My Boyfriend?  Choosing who to go on vacation with can be a difficult decision.  I am a married woman and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  I have been working with couples for over 23 years.  I specialize in Affair Recovery and developing New Monogamy agreements. … Read more

Long Distance Relationships

Long Distance Relationships.  Do long distance relationships work out? About 20 years ago I was in a long-distance relationship with a guy who lived in another country.  We met while he was doing business in San Diego and when deciding to date each other we did the standard taking turns visiting each other arrangement.  As … Read more

Why Some Women Wear High Heels

Why Some Women Wear High Heels.  Last month I wrote about why some women wear red lipstick.  Red lipstick and wearing high heels can imply a sexual connotation to some people.  But can wearing high heels be an implicit invitation to sex?  In an article entitled, “The Psychology of High Heels,” by Michael Castleman, he … Read more

People Who Dump and The People Who Get Dumped

People Who Dump and The People Who Get Dumped AKA The Dumpers and The Dumpees.  Breakups are easiest for couples who decide mutually to end the relationship.  In most cases when a relationship ends there typically is a person who initiates the breakup and a person who wants the relationship to continue, referred to as … Read more

Refresh A Stagnate Relationship

Refresh A Stagnate Relationship.  Spring is here and just as we do Spring cleaning around our house it’s important to do a Spring cleaning with our relationship.  What works and what doesn’t?  Take inventory and talk about what you like and don’t like about your interaction with one another.  What is making you happy and … Read more

Is It Time To Do A New Monogamy?

Is It Time To Do A New Monogamy? Is It Time To Move Your Relationship Into A New Monogamy? We’re in the 21st Century.  We don’t have the marriages our parents or our grandparents had.  There are less people married now than the past 30 years.  Many people are marrying later in life and 40% … Read more

Stress Free Valentine’s Day Tips 2017

Stress-free Valentine’s Day tips 2017.  Working as a Marriage Counselor for over 23 years, I’ve noticed some married couples tend to downplay Valentine’s Day.  It could be because they’ve been married for so long they may unknowingly be taking each other for granted.  Perhaps that’s one of the reasons they are receiving counseling. When talking to … Read more

So You Think You Want A Divorce

So You Think You Want A Divorce.  It doesn’t really matter how long you’ve been married.  If your marriage is not a good working relationship with mutual respect who says you have to stay in it?  Add abuse of any kind and wonder why individuals stay in relationships longer than they need to.  I’ve been … Read more

The Crisis of Infidelity Part II

The Crisis of Infidelity Part II.  There are different types of affairs San Diego Couples experience as they enter Marriage and Couples Counseling to deal with the effects of what their behaviors have attributed to their relationships. Types of Affairs Life Transitions Relationships go through stages involving loss and then gain – and each of … Read more