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Got Enough Passion In Your Relationship?

Got Enough Passion In Your Relationship?  A healthy and satisfying relationship includes love, intimacy, commitment, and passion. Without passion, you might not have a romantic relationship as much as you have a friendship.  Passion involves strong feelings of enthusiasm, joy, and powerful or compelling feelings of love and desiring. You don’t have to experience fireworks … Read more

The Secret Ingredient To Transform Your Sex Life

The Secret Ingredient To Transform Your Sex Life.  Heard of the “pink pill” for women referred to as female Viagra?  Researchers, scientists, and sex therapists have spent decades providing us information about what creates sexual desire, what turns people on and off, how to have an orgasm, how to have a great orgasm, and sexual … Read more

How To Have The “I’d Like To Open Up Our Marriage” Conversation?

How To Have The “I’d Like To Open Up Our Marriage” Conversation?  Have you been married for a couple of decades or been in a long-term relationship and your love life has flatlined?  You’ve heard of people “swinging” or even, worse, having affairs, to spice up their sex life.  Rather than cheat, having a conversation … Read more

Raising Mentally Healthy Children After Divorce

Raising Mentally Healthy Children After Divorce.  After my divorce in 1991, I thought I was the worst person in the world.  After 9 years of marriage, investing emotionally in two families who cared about us for a total of 16 years, and a three-year-old daughter who meant the world to the whole family, I decided … Read more

Women Maintain Your Sense Of Self

Women Maintain Your Sense Of Self.  As little girls, we are socialized to be the “good little girl” in that we are supposed to follow what our parents and society tell us to do.  We have our own stories that we take with us into adulthood.  This is what I heard while growing up in … Read more

Do I Go To Cabo With My Husband Or My Boyfriend?

Do I Go To Cabo With My Husband Or My Boyfriend?  Choosing who to go on vacation with can be a difficult decision.  I am a married woman and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.  I have been working with couples for over 23 years.  I specialize in Affair Recovery and developing New Monogamy agreements. … Read more

Long Distance Relationships

Long Distance Relationships.  Do long distance relationships work out? About 20 years ago I was in a long-distance relationship with a guy who lived in another country.  We met while he was doing business in San Diego and when deciding to date each other we did the standard taking turns visiting each other arrangement.  As … Read more

Why Some Women Wear High Heels

Why Some Women Wear High Heels.  Last month I wrote about why some women wear red lipstick.  Red lipstick and wearing high heels can imply a sexual connotation to some people.  But can wearing high heels be an implicit invitation to sex?  In an article entitled, “The Psychology of High Heels,” by Michael Castleman, he … Read more

People Who Dump and The People Who Get Dumped

People Who Dump and The People Who Get Dumped AKA The Dumpers and The Dumpees.  Breakups are easiest for couples who decide mutually to end the relationship.  In most cases when a relationship ends there typically is a person who initiates the breakup and a person who wants the relationship to continue, referred to as … Read more

Refresh A Stagnate Relationship

Refresh A Stagnate Relationship.  Spring is here and just as we do Spring cleaning around our house it’s important to do a Spring cleaning with our relationship.  What works and what doesn’t?  Take inventory and talk about what you like and don’t like about your interaction with one another.  What is making you happy and … Read more