Sex on the Beach Isn't just a Cocktail for my Couples

Managing Holiday Stress – A Smile Can Get You Everywhere

Managing Holiday Stress – A Smile Can Get You Everywhere.  As we enter the month of November I start to think about Thanksgiving and everything I’m thankful for.  As a Marriage Counselor, I see a range of couples from eternally happy wanting to continue to keep their relationship in check to those who are constantly … Read more

Caught Cheating? Now What?

Caught Cheating? Now What? You’ve just discovered your husband/wife is having an affair.  What do you do now?  Confess or deny?  As a Marriage Counselor, I see couples whose spouse has just been caught cheating and are at a crossroads in either being able to minimize or worsen the situation by continuing to lie, become … Read more

The Masks We Hide Behind

The Masks We Hide Behind. Do You Hide Behind A Pseudo Self?  We all have a true self or a false self also known as a pseudo self. Carl Jung the Swiss Psychiatrist and Psychoanalyst define Personas as the mask or shield which a person places between himself and the people around him.  In honor … Read more

The “I’m Not In Love With You” Statement

The I love you, but, “I’m Not In Love With You” Statement.  Couples often come into Marriage Counseling with many different reasons why they don’t get along. Communication is a big issue as most people are unable to say what they need to say to one another.  They could be conflict avoidant, meaning rather than … Read more

Do You Have Sexual Intelligence?

Do You Have Sexual Intelligence?  There’s a difference between knowing how to have sex and having intelligence about sex.  Some people don’t understand either.  As a Marriage Counselor, my couples want sex to be natural and spontaneous.  All the planets have to align before wanting to engage in sex.  Many don’t care for the idea … Read more

The Pain Of Infidelity

The Pain Of Infidelity.  The single most destructive threat to committed relationships in San Diego and throughout the entire world is when one of the partners engages in a sexual relationship with another person. This is not an uncommon event. Conservative estimates suggest that about a quarter of women, and a third of men, have … Read more

Do You Think You Want An Open Marriage?

Do You Think You Want An Open Marriage?  Some people think open marriages are another form of affairs, infidelity or betrayal, that lead to the demise of the marriage.  Some people believe open marriages can be hurtful and damaging to relationships in general.  Open marriages and polyamory are being talked about more so than ever … Read more

Polyamory Or Monogamy Which One Is For You?

Polyamory or Monogamy Which One Is For You?  Polyamory means having simultaneous close emotional and possibly sexual relationships with two or more other individuals with the knowledge and consent of all partners concerned.  The growing practice of polyamory in the United States indicates a significant shift in the way marriage and intimate relationships have evolved … Read more

Back To School – Reclaim Your Intimacy

Back To School – Reclaim Your Intimacy.  Summer’s over and it’s time to concentrate on “us”.  With the completion of Labor Day, Summer is officially over.  The new school year has begun.  The children are no longer around to act as a diversion to you and your spouse spending one on one time together.  Summer … Read more

Is Your Relationship Romantic Enough?

Is Your Relationship Romantic Enough?  Remember when you and your partner were first dating? Things were new and exciting.  There was a great deal of effort being put forth to keep each other interested.  Over a period of time, long-term relationships can experience lack of fulfillment as boredom can set in after the “honeymoon period.” … Read more