People Who Dump and The People Who Get Dumped

People Who Dump and The People Who Get Dumped AKA The Dumpers and The Dumpees.  Breakups are easiest for couples who decide mutually to end the relationship.  In most cases when a relationship ends there typically is a person who initiates the breakup and a person who wants the relationship to continue, referred to as … Read more

Refresh A Stagnate Relationship

Refresh A Stagnate Relationship.  Spring is here and just as we do Spring cleaning around our house it’s important to do a Spring cleaning with our relationship.  What works and what doesn’t?  Take inventory and talk about what you like and don’t like about your interaction with one another.  What is making you happy and … Read more

The Crisis of Infidelity

The Crisis of Infidelity.  The single most destructive threat to committed relationships in San Diego and throughout the entire world is when one of the partners engages in a sexual relationship with another person. This is not an uncommon event. Conservative estimates suggest that about a quarter of women, and a third of men, have … Read more

Managing Your Temper When Fighting

Managing Your Temper When Fighting.  The Course of Relationships mature over time. The initial attraction may be physical, and this may carry the relationship to the point of making an emotional commitment. Then the excitement and promise of sharing our life with another person can lead to a stage of heightened expectations where we ignore … Read more

Warning Signs You’re With An Unavailable Person

Warning Signs You’re With An Unavailable Person.  As a Couples Counselor I work with men and women who say they want to be in a relationship and eventually want to be married.  Some of these individuals happen to be with people who are already married, have a girlfriend or boyfriend, or who don’t want to … Read more

Affair Proof Your Marriage

Affair Proof Your Marriage.  As a Marriage Counselor working in Affair and Infidelity Recovery I work with couples who made the terrible mistake of cheating and now are left experiencing confusion and panic as they don’t know what to do to move forward and remedy what they have just done. No doubt affairs can provide … Read more

How To Validate The One You Love

How To Validate The One You Love.  Validation builds emotional safety within relationships.  As a Marriage Counselor I talk to people who don’t even know what that means.  We all want to feel wanted, needed and understood.  Learning to validate our feelings and those of others builds emotional connectedness.  In Couples Counseling the couples who … Read more

Valentine’s Day For The New Relationship

Valentine’s Day For The New Relationship.  As a Couples Counselor in private practice for over 20 years I’ve helped many relationships during this romantic yet somewhat highly commercialized day of expectations for what to do on Valentine’s Day.  Even when you’ve been in a long term relationship preparing for the day can be challenging.  What … Read more

The New Year’s Eve Kiss

The New Year’s Eve kiss.  Whether you ring in the new year watching the Times Square ball drop from your living room or toasting champagne at an upscale establishment, tradition makes a case for celebrating the new year with people you love.  According to English and German folklore, the first person you encounter in a … Read more

Stupid Things Couples Do To Mess Up Their Relationships

If you’ve been following my last two blogs this completes the trio of what people do to mess up their lives.  Stupid Things Couples Do To Mess Up Their Relationships.  Dr. Laura Schlessinger, radio talk show host and author writes about the problems women and men face in finding peace in love and the ways … Read more