Long Distance Relationships

Long Distance Relationships.  Do long distance relationships work out? About 20 years ago I was in a long-distance relationship with a guy who lived in another country.  We met while he was doing business in San Diego and when deciding to date each other we did the standard taking turns visiting each other arrangement.  As … Read more

People Who Dump and The People Who Get Dumped

People Who Dump and The People Who Get Dumped AKA The Dumpers and The Dumpees.  Breakups are easiest for couples who decide mutually to end the relationship.  In most cases when a relationship ends there typically is a person who initiates the breakup and a person who wants the relationship to continue, referred to as … Read more

Boundaries in Relationships

Boundaries in Relationships.  Learning to have healthy boundaries is an appropriate part of a stable relationship. It means coming to know ourselves and increasing our awareness of what we stand for. It also means self-acceptance and knowing that we are OK as we are and worthy of good things in life. When two people with … Read more

Refresh A Stagnate Relationship

Refresh A Stagnate Relationship.  Spring is here and just as we do Spring cleaning around our house it’s important to do a Spring cleaning with our relationship.  What works and what doesn’t?  Take inventory and talk about what you like and don’t like about your interaction with one another.  What is making you happy and … Read more

Is Non-Monogamy Infidelity?

Is Non-Monogamy Infidelity?  What is Infidelity?  Infidelity is the action of being unfaithful to a spouse or other sexual partner. When spouses find out about their partner’s infidelity they say it’s the worst feeling they’ve had to endure. When the infidelity is disclosed; meaning the person confesses, the feeling is devastating and surreal.  When the infidelity … Read more

Stress Free Valentine’s Day Tips 2017

Stress-free Valentine’s Day tips 2017.  Working as a Marriage Counselor for over 23 years, I’ve noticed some married couples tend to downplay Valentine’s Day.  It could be because they’ve been married for so long they may unknowingly be taking each other for granted.  Perhaps that’s one of the reasons they are receiving counseling. When talking to … Read more

Expectations Of A Marriage Proposal On Valentine’s Day

Expectations Of A Marriage Proposal On Valentine’s Day.  Here it is, Valentine’s Day.  You’ve been dating your gal for over a “decent period” of time now.  You both know each other well enough and you know she wants you to take the next step.  So what are you waiting for?! As a Marriage Counselor, I … Read more

The Crisis of Infidelity Part II

The Crisis of Infidelity Part II.  There are different types of affairs San Diego Couples experience as they enter Marriage and Couples Counseling to deal with the effects of what their behaviors have attributed to their relationships. Types of Affairs Life Transitions Relationships go through stages involving loss and then gain – and each of … Read more

Dysfunctional Families And The Holidays

Dysfunctional Families And The Holidays.  Who doesn’t have a dysfunctional family?  That’s a rhetorical question. Having a “normal” family can be considered dysfunctional.  But seriously there are dysfunctional families that exist that can be detrimental to emotional well being and we all know what I’m talking about.  As a Marriage Counselor the Holidays present a … Read more

Managing Your Temper When Fighting

Managing Your Temper When Fighting.  The Course of Relationships mature over time. The initial attraction may be physical, and this may carry the relationship to the point of making an emotional commitment. Then the excitement and promise of sharing our life with another person can lead to a stage of heightened expectations where we ignore … Read more