Couples and Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is that special time where lovers have the opportunity to express their fond felt emotions toward one another. Marriage Counseling brings about many discussions about disappointing Valentine’s Days. Often times expectations aren’t met and emotions come up that need to be shared so individuals can know what to expect for future event planning.
Top 5 Things to Avoid on Valentine’s Day:
1. Forget About The “Day”
Acknowledge the day. The world around us will be surrounding ourselves with pink hearts, red roses, and chocolate candy. Don’t make your partner feel left out. Validate their existence and show how they make you feel during this day of Love.
2. Just Show Up At A Restaurant
Make sure you have a dinner reservation. Valentine’s Day is the busiest night of the year. If you don’t have a reservation you chance not getting into a restaurant of your choice or can wait over an hour to be seated which isn’t very romantic, shows poor planning on your part, and makes for an unpleasant evening.
3. Have Other Engagements
Keep your calendar clear that day. Even if you plan on working for just a few more minutes on a project, you can run into a time crunch and become late for your evening plans and create unhappy feelings toward your partner. Eliminate any risk of things that could interfere with a successful outcome.
4. Avoid Discussion About Overwhelming Gifts
Even though you may feel strongly about your loved one, especially if you are still in the “New Love Phase” of your relationship, it would be good to talk about appropriate gifts of affection so that one partner doesn’t go overboard when the other may plan on doing something simple. This eliminates any embarrassment, hurt feelings or awkwardness because one of you is feeling like what they contributed wasn’t enough. Even if the day is a surprise, it would be good to talk beforehand, in terms of a general feel about your Valentine’s Day plans. That way both can of you can enjoy the experience and eliminate unhappy or guilty feelings.
5. Buy into Marketing Messages
You don’t have to spend alot of money to show your love and affection. It’s not about getting the biggest bouquet of flowers or most expensive box of candy. Even jewelry doesn’t have to send you over your credit limit. It’s about showing your loved one behaviorally, what they mean to you. Enhance the experience by expressing thankfulness and appreciation, as well, as you spend your special time together.
And remember love and romance isn’t just for Valentine’s Day….keep the “in-love” behavior ongoing and you’ll continue to feel like being “in-love.”
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