Why Affairs And Infidelity Are On The Rise. As a Marriage Counselor I see couples who come in for sex and relationship advice. Because I specialize in Affair Recovery quite a few come in needing help with the devastation of having an affair discovered or disclosed. Throughout the years I’ve wondered why affairs and infidelity are on the rise as you never stop hearing about them in the media and through conversations by the “water cooler” (expression for office/neighborhood gossip). People often ask me whether couples can recover from affairs. I tell them “it depends” as every couple has to make the determination whether they want to make the commitment to affair recovery. If yes, then “absolutely.” The process, however, will need your full cooperation.
I believe affairs and infidelity are on the rise because the internet provides a widespread of opportunity for people to connect. When I was growing up we didn’t have the internet or any kind of Social Network. We had a vehicle on the telephone referred to as a “hotline” where people would talk in between beeps and try to get phone numbers. As if that was effective. And websites such as Ashley Madison and other online affair dating sites encourage cheating.
Another logical reason affairs and infidelity are on the rise is because people are living longer. The average life expectancy for men is 78.1 years and 81 years for women according to the 2011 report by the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD). Practicing monogamy could be challenging when you’ve been with the same person for over 40 years.
There are also more women in the workplace and women tend to be less traditional in this day of age. With all the “goodies” available to us and the lack of delayed immediate gratification people are bored and want more Novelty.
The population has easier access to Porn and individuals want what they see, right? If they aren’t getting the sex they want at home they’re inclined to find it elsewhere.
In Marriage Counseling there is no judgement or criticism from working with me. I help couples develop Monogamy Agreements that work for them. If your relationship isn’t working for you for whatever reason please contact me at (858) 735-1139. You have the rest of your life to live it the way you’d like.