Are You Living The Life You Want? I thought I was until I wanted a divorce from my high school sweetheart, my first husband. Our relationship made a lot of people happy. My parents were elated when we married as it represented security for their beloved daughter and lowered anxiety for them. I was a compliant child as much as a rebellious one. Compliant because I wanted to be loved and rebellious because that love came with a price. My new book, Happy Me Happy We: Six Steps To Know Yourself So You Know What You Want In A Relationship may offer some perspective if you aren’t living the life you want.
Living the life you want
According to Bronnie Ware, the five most common regrets shared by people nearing death were:
- “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
- “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.”
- “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
- “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”
- “I wish that I had let myself be happier.”
A 2018 study reached similar conclusions, finding that people were more likely to express “ideal-related regrets”, such as failing to follow their dreams and live up to their full potential.
Living a life congruent to how you feel is the most empowering feeling. Happy Me Happy We shows you how to get what you want so you don’t have those regrets. I understand through the developmental stages of growing up we all tend to be influenced by our environment. It’s when we listen to our intuition and know what to do about it is when we are on the true road to happiness. It’s scary, I get it, but what’s the other alternative? Living a life that isn’t happy? That’s even more frightening because if we don’t get it right in this life, we’ll continue trying to get it right in the next. And, most importantly, what are you role modeling to your children?
If you’re caught up in what other’s have been telling you and want to start doing what makes you happy and content, Happy Me Happy We can give you what you need to do that.
What’s your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die? For more information on living the life you want please go to my website CouplesCounselorSanDiego.com or for the book to to SarahRuggera.com