How To Make Your Wedding Vows Count

How To Make Your Wedding Vows Count.  In traditional wedding vow husbands and wives promise to stay together for richer or poorer, through sickness and health, and til death do they part.  But these wedding vows offer little practical direction for a successful marriage.  If you want a relationship that is lasting and fulfilling consider these research based vows that actually help couples keep their promises to each other.

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1.  “I promise to support and protect your freedom.  Although our lives are interwined, your choices are still yours alone.”

It’s crucial to maintain individuality in long-term relationships.  Research suggest that people who are pressured by a partner into making decisions feel less fulfilled, which is problematic for any marriage.  Support each other’s right to make decisions independently.

2.  “I promise to respect, admire, and appreciate you for who you are, as well as for the person you wish to become.”

Striving to see the best in each other and supporting each other’s attempts to grow and improve over time is highly beneficial for you, your partner and your relationship.

3.  “I promise to show you, ever day, that I know exactly how lucky I am to have you in my life.”

Research shows that when we express gratitude to our partners and make them feel appreciated, they tend to feel happier, more committed, and more appreciative themselves.

4.  “I promise to keep our lives exciting, adventurous, and full of passion.”

Couples are happier when they engage in new and interesting things together.  Keep courting each other, keep traveling and exploring together, and sharing novel and interesting experiences.

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