Marriage Tips. I’ve been married now for 21 years. And have been helping couples manage their relationships for the past 25 years. During the honeymoon stage you were told “never go to bed angry” and “remember that you’re on the same team.” When the tough get going life continues to stress even the best marriages.
Here are some marriage tips that have helped couples in long-term relationships:
- Let your partner know you are thinking about them throughout the day.
- And let them express their feelings first.
- Imagine what your life would be like without them.
- Accept your partner for who they are.
- Ask for what you need and want.
- Share thoughts and feelings.
- Learn how to compromise.
- Be physically affectionate with one another.
- End your day on a positive note.
- Enjoy each other’s company.
- Maintain a friendship in your relationship.
- Decompress together.
- Have the same financial priorities.
- Don’t be afraid to give each other personal space.
- Don’t always live in the future.
- Always kiss each other goodnight.
- Always kiss each other when you leave and return home.
- Know that you are a team no matter what.
- Say “yes” to new experiences.
- Reminisce about how you first fell in love.
- Maintain a life outside of your relationship.
- Never lose your sense of self (the “me” in the “we”).
- Take responsibility of your part in conflict.
- Keep your partner guessing.
- Perform random acts of kindness on a regular basis.
- Make dinners at home a special occasion.
- Learn what you want in bed and don’t be afraid to tell your partner.
- Keep company with positive people.
- Speak using “I” statements when you argue.
- Give undivided attention when communicating with one another.
- Have your own interests.
- Pursue some of the same interests.
- Remember opposites attract.
- Don’t bring home work.
- Take “time-outs“
- Show appreciation and gratitude.
- Keep the romance alive (be boyfriend and girlfriend sometimes and not husband and wife)
- Make intimacy a priority outside the bedroom.
- Take pride in your appearance.
- Make your partner feel wanted/desired.
- Be patient.
- Say “I’m sorry” and “you’re right” when making amends.
- Have a sense of humor about yourself and your relationship.
- Schedule a weekly Date Night.
- Imagine what your life would be like without them.
Most importantly take care of yourself and know what you want so you know what you want in your relationship. A happy “me” makes for a very happy “we.”
For more information contact me at (85) 735-1139.
