Recommended Reading

Books I use in my couples work:


  • The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman
  • The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity by Tammy Nelson
  • Mating in Captivity by Ester Perel
  • Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch
  • The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Real, Terrence
  • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work : A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John M. Gottman, Nan Silver
  • Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.


  • When You’re The One Who Cheats by Tammy Nelson
  • State of Affairs by Ester Perel
  • After the Affair by Janis Abrams Spring
  • How Can I Forgive you? by Janis Abrams Spring
  • Private Lies by Frank Pittman
  • Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley P. Glass
  • Intimacy After Infidelity by Steven Soloman

Sexual Issues

  • The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity by Tammy Nelson
  • Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together by Tammy Nelson
  • Sexual Intelligence by Marty Klein
  • The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
  • Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship by David Schnarch
  • Hot Sex by Tracy Cox
  • For Women Only: A Revolutionary Guide to Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction and Reclaiming Your Sex Life by Laura Berman, PhD
  • The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Wendy Maltz
  • Rekindling Desire by Barry and Emily McCarthy
  • Hot Monogamy by Pat Love
  • The SEX-STARVED Marriage by Michelle Weiner

Codependence and Recovery

  • Facing Codependency by Pia Mellody
  • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
  • Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
  • The Intimacy Factor by Pia Mellody
  • Adult Children of Alcoholics by Janet G. Woititz
  • Homecomming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw
  • The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
  • Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

Women’s Issues

  • Choosing Me before We by Christine Arylo
  • You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero
  • Before the Change: Taking Charge of Your Perimenopause by Ann Louise Gittleman
  • The Wounded Woman: Healing the Father-Daughter Relationship by L. Schierse Leonard
  • The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by E. Bass & L. Davis
  • The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner

Men’s Issues

  • I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real
  • Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men: How to Free Yourself from the Grip of Anger and Get More Out of Life by Thomas J. Harbin
  • Finding Our Fathers: How a Man’s Life Is Shaped by His Relationship with his Father by S. Osherson
  • When Good Men Behave Badly: Change Your Behavior, Change Your Relationship by David B. Wexler
  • Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew


  • How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber
  • 1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting by Thomas Phelan Ph.D.
  • 5 Love Languages of Teenagers by Gary Chapman
  • Parenting From the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel
  • I’m Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict by Roni Cohen, Phd, Michelle Sandler, Roni Sliver, Michelle Cohen-Sandler
  • Positive Discipline for Teenagers: Empowering Your Teens and Yourself Through Kind and Firm Parenting by Jane Nelsen, Lynn Lott
  • Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
  • Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher

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