Recommended Reading for Marriage & Family Therapy

Books I use in my couples work:

The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate by Gary Chapman
The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity by Tammy Nelson
Mating in Captivity by Ester Perel
Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch
The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Real, Terrence
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work : A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John M. Gottman, Nan Silver
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.

When You’re The One Who Cheats by Tammy Nelson
State of Affairs by Ester Perel
After the Affair by Janis Abrams Spring
How Can I Forgive you? by Janis Abrams Spring
Private Lies by Frank Pittman
Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley P. Glass
Intimacy After Infidelity by Steven Soloman

The New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity by Tammy Nelson
Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together by Tammy Nelson
Sexual Intelligence by Marty Klein
The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship by David Schnarch
Hot Sex by Tracy Cox
For Women Only: A Revolutionary Guide to Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction and Reclaiming Your Sex Life by Laura Berman, PhD
The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Wendy Maltz
Rekindling Desire by Barry and Emily McCarthy
Hot Monogamy by Pat Love
The SEX-STARVED Marriage by Michelle Weiner

Facing Codependency by Pia Mellody
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
The Intimacy Factor by Pia Mellody
Adult Children of Alcoholics by Janet G. Woititz
Homecomming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

Choosing Me before We by Christine Arylo
You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero
Before the Change: Taking Charge of Your Perimenopause by Ann Louise Gittleman
The Wounded Woman: Healing the Father-Daughter Relationship by L. Schierse Leonard
The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by E. Bass & L. Davis
The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner

I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real
Beyond Anger: A Guide for Men: How to Free Yourself from the Grip of Anger and Get More Out of Life by Thomas J. Harbin
Finding Our Fathers: How a Man’s Life Is Shaped by His Relationship with his Father by S. Osherson
When Good Men Behave Badly: Change Your Behavior, Change Your Relationship by David B. Wexler
Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse by Mike Lew

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber
1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting by Thomas Phelan Ph.D.
5 Love Languages of Teenagers by Gary Chapman
Parenting From the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel
I’m Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict by Roni Cohen, Phd, Michelle Sandler, Roni Sliver, Michelle Cohen-Sandler
Positive Discipline for Teenagers: Empowering Your Teens and Yourself Through Kind and Firm Parenting by Jane Nelsen, Lynn Lott
Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher