Regret Not Getting Premarital Counseling? I bet Duncan Hunter’s wife does. Representative Duncan D. Hunter and his wife, Margaret Hunter, were indicted on charges including conspiracy, wire fraud, and violating campaign finance laws on August 21, 2018. This week Duncan D. Hunter states his wife, being his Campaign Manager, is solely responsible for these misappropriations.
As he throws his wife under the bus, I was in St. Lucia in the West Indies last week celebrating my 20th wedding anniversary. This destination to the East Coast population is what Hawaii is to the West Coast. Despite the 9 + hour flight, I appreciated the beauty of the Eastern Caribbean Sea. I did some people watching, read some books and got some rest and relaxation. I was aware that this resort was a Honeymoon destination. There were couples of all ages from different parts of the world celebrating their new life together. As a Marriage Counselor, I wondered whether or not these couples received any premarital counseling.
Weddings tend to cost as much as down payment on homes these days. And why not, it’s an unforgettable and hopefully lifelasting union between two people who love and are committed to each other. What’s interesting is how few people choose to invest in premarital education. Relationships require work to remain vibrant and healthy. I suspect that most couples because they’re engulfed in the love and romance of the Honeymoon Stage, neglect considering conflicts might come up between them down the line. As a Couples’ Therapist, I’ve seen many married couples hanging at the “end of their ropes,” emotionally disconnected and often times really angry at each other where their relationship continues to deteriorate.
Investing in Premarital Counseling will:
- Identify strengths and growth areas
- Explore personality traits
- Develop and strengthen communication skills
- Acquire Conflict Resolution skills
- Compare family backgrounds
- Discuss Sexual Expectations
- Teach effective Parenting
As a Marriage Counselor providing premarital counseling I help couples understand what a healthy and functional relationship looks like. As we are all products of our upbringing we have personal issues that affect relationship issues. Premarital counseling helps establish role expectations and marriage logistics.
After “the wedding” some couples have ideal expectations that married life is going to run smoothly where they’ll live “happily ever after.” Happily ever after is creating a functional working partnership that meets each other’s needs and wants. When dishing out the dough for wedding plans include premarital counseling so you protect your initial investment.
For more information please contact me at (858) 735-1139.