Spring And Infidelity. Springing forward our clocks makes our days longer making for warmer weather. Those who suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) love Spring and the summer months as exposure to sunshine ultimately allows them to feel happier. The increased levels of Serotonin enables people to feel more confident and more social.
As a Marriage Counselor and Affair Recovery Specialist, Spring typically jump starts someone’s decision to start an affair. I’m often asked why people have affairs. And if more men than women have affairs in general. As every couple is different with their own set of unique circumstances there is no one size fits all answer to the first question. Regarding the percentages of males and females cheating the numbers are almost equal. As an Affair Recovery Specialist, I help couples through the devastation of discovery or disclosure of any kind of infidelity. Again, there are many reasons why people have affairs. One reason is they want to feel different and being with someone else meets that objective. When you’ve been in a long term relationship the feelings of familiarity and security are nice. The excitement level, however, decreases as familiarity can bring about routine. Routine is often times boring to say the least.
As an Affair Recovery Specialist, I see first hand how betrayal hurts. Being cheated on effects the core of our existence as it leaves us with the loss of being significant to our partner.
For those of you who are thinking about starting an affair please be mindful that if and when an affair is discovered the repercussions are grave. If you are found out the best course of action is not to deny but be forthcoming and admit. In working with couples throughout my 24 years in practice, admission is ultimately the best thing you can do. Admission enables you to finally be honest. With admission affair recovery can lead to being more open and honest about what went wrong and why, as well as what is needed to develop the relationship you both want for moving forward. Coming clean is the first step to trying to save your marriage/relationship. Continuing to deny worsen your ability to be honest.
It may sound counterintuitive to admit to your affair after it is discovered but for true healing to occur that is the right first step to affair recovery. If you are having an affair and want help in disclosing or your affair has just been discovered contact me at (858) 735-139 to ensure you get what you want out of this ordeal.