Breakups – How To Get Over Them As Fast As Possible. Breakups suck and reliving them is either wildly unpleasant or weirdly humorous. We’ve all gone through them. Breakups hurt but aren’t the end of the world. The pain is temporary, and if handled appropriately, can be life changing as we learn from all our past relationships. Both men and women who go through breakups are consumed with despair, confusion, and anger hence they go through the grief and loss process. They are truly devastated by the end of a relationship that they thought was going to last forever. Getting over a broken heart is incredibly tough.
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It can also be surprisingly empowering as you become victorious in finally living your own life again without the constant presence of heartache. If you want to get over your breakup sooner rather than later follow through with these hard fast Commandments suggested by authors Behrendt and Ruotola.
First Commandment: Don’t see or talk to him/her for sixty days
Second Commandment: Get yourself a breakup buddy
Third Commandment: Get rid of his/her possessions and the things that remind you of them
Fourth Commandment: Get yourself in motion every day
Fifth Commandment: Don’t wear your breakup out into the world
Sixth Commandment: No backsliding!
Seventh Commandment: It won’t work unless you are number one!
This article was written with humor to add levity to a situation as a breakup can really be quite painful. In Couples Counseling I help Individuals who are broken up acquire the tools to behave like people who are broken up. It is very tempting to see each other every now and then after a breakup. People often times still have sex with one another which adds too much confusion and even more difficulty keeping the breakup broken. If you are broken up, then it is important to behave like a couple who is broken up. Exercising appropriate behavior will keep you moving forward. If you would like more information on break up tools and acquiring appropriate break up behavior to help you move forward please give me a call at (858) 735-1139 or email at Sarah@CouplesCounselorSanDiego.com
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