Are You Part Of the Statistics Of Infidelity?

Are You Part Of the Statistics Of Infidelity? San Diego’s County Fair is back in swing post COVID-19. Every year there is a theme that draws hundreds to this yearly event. In 2015 the theme was “A Fair To Remember.”  The theme for that year commemorates the celebration of world fairs and Balboa Park.  I was at the Fair for the 4th of July. Crowded, noisy, but very Americana especially when the fireworks were displayed. Whenever I see fireworks on the 4th of July I feel a sense of Nostalgia knowing people across the Country are looking up at the sky viewing similar patterns of lights and feeling a sense of pride for our Country.

Are You Part Of the Statistics Of Infidelity?

That year’s title theme reminded me of an old classic film entitled “An Affair To Remember” starring Deborah Kerr and Cary Grant. About a women and man who meet during a cruise, fall in love and plan to meet at the top of the Empire State Building in New York City taking 6 months apart to take the time to get their lives in order and end the relationships they are currently involved in so they can be together. I was thinking while standing among the crowds as lovely as that story turned out people don’t always have happy endings when it comes to their affair “lovers.”

Infidelity Statistics show from the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy dated April 8, 2015:

70% of marriages that experience affairs do NOT end in divorce. When people leave their marriage for their affair, the new relationship rarely survives (3 to 7% survive).

1.  Men who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they’ve had – 57%

2.  Women who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they’ve had – 54%

3.  Marriages where one or both spouses admit to either physical or emotional – 41%

Are You Part Of the Statistics Of Infidelity?

Of course, there is no excuse or justification for cheating.  As a Marriage Counselor and Affair Recovery Specialist, I recommend husbands and wives be more forthcoming with their praise for each other and tell each other how much they appreciate one another so they don’t want to look elsewhere for that validation.  Men and women get married because they want one person in the entire world to really think we’re wonderful for doing all the things that we do. We all want the same thing. The more we give the more we want in return.
If you’re having an affair and don’t know how to get out of it or want to stay in it and need help telling your wife/husband call me at (858) 735-1139. Or if you want to save your relationship we can certainly talk more about what you can put in place so your marriage/relationship is protected from the above statistics. Helping people who ask the question…”should I stay or should I go?”