To Leave Or Not To Leave

To Leave Or Not To Leave. That’s been the big question since the end of last week. Our Country has been in social distancing mode for over six weeks. Depending on your start date some have been housebound for over eight weeks. I get it, it’s hard. This State of emergency has hit everyone’s joy and livelihood. It’s created a lot of anxiety and depression on all levels. My clients have added stressors due to the virus which adversely effects their already challenged set of circumstances. For some, this housebound situation has strengthened their relationships. For others, it is a wake up call to stop living a life that isn’t working for them. Never before am I working with people who ask the question…”Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

I am not immuned to the feelings of social distancing. I haven’t behaved like a functional adult and have acted out through being rather irritable and annoying to the ones I love. Despite my acting out behavior I have made a conscious effort to understand that it isn’t easy for the rest of my family either. My Facebook post may seem like I’m so together, but, I’m just like you and have good and bad days. As much as I want to liberate myself from this social distancing, I just can’t seem to do it until I think it’s safe. I’m taking the next two weeks to observe what is happening to make an informed decision about whether or not to resume sessions in my office. Until then I am video conferencing to help those in need. It isn’t ideal but it is an option. Better to be safe than sorry. I don’t want to get sick and have to manage those symptoms. I heard it’s a bitch to do that. So, let’s exercise a little more patience and see what the next two weeks looks like.

So, if you’re itching to go play golf, camping with your buddies, or have a motorcycle or bike ride with your buds, think twice about waiting a couple of weeks. The wives I work with would appreciate you keeping them and your children in high priority and being mindful to keep yourself safe during a pandemic without a vaccine.

If you want to talk and can’t wait a couple of weeks I am available for video counseling (teletherapy). Call me at (858) 735-1139 or email me at



Benefits Of Online Couples Counseling

Benefits Of Online Couples Counseling. As much as you might hope that your relationship is and will be perfect, not everyone can experience the fairy tale Disney lifestyle that you were told was possible growing up. Sometimes, relationships require couples counseling to help them overcome problems that they encounter. There are many reasons why you and your partner may need to attend counseling, but admitting that the relationship needs help is the first step towards healing. 

Typically, couples counseling is held in the counselor’s office, but, as with many healthcare practices, there has been a significant shift towards online treatment. Now, with the COVID-19 pandemic, this practice has become more useful than ever before.

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Benefits Of Online Couples Counseling

However, it’s crucial to find a reliable group like Couples Counselor San Diego, which offers online couplings counseling to help repair and strengthen relationships during the pandemic.

If you and your partner are experiencing issues and want it to be resolved, here are the benefits of online counseling. 

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You Can Experience Relationship Re-Engagement 

As much as you loved each other when you first met, the relationship and the spark might fizzle out over time. While this is natural for many couples, it can still make both or one of the partners feel unsure of where they stand in the relationship. It can be worrisome to question whether the relationship is thriving or sinking.

Engaging in online couples counseling can help you recognize and remember what attracted you to your partner in the first place. It also reminds you of all the positive attributes that appealed to both you and your partner. Therefore, it can rekindle the flame that has died out, even though this is neither anyone’s fault, it’s the common thing that happens in relationships. 

Wondering if you should stay or leave the relationship? Contact Couples Counselor San Diego before making any decisions

You Can Develop a New Relationship Foundation

Successful relationships are all about respect and compromise, but if neither of you feels that the other person is putting in the effort, then there is a reason to feel frustrated. With online couple counseling, both parties can develop a new foundation for the relationship based on respect and equality. 

Sometimes, you or your partner don’t realize the core problem until it’s too late. Fortunately, online sessions from Couples Counselor San Diego can work with both parties to improve the communication aspect of the relationship, which can mitigate and even eliminate problems in the future. From here, you can start focusing on how to repair your relationship through words and actions, rather than silence alone.

You Can Experience the Counseling in a Safe Space

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Counseling offices can be an intimidating place, which can make people feel reluctant to engage comfortably with the counselor. However, with online practices, you can undertake sessions with your partner from the comfort of your own home.

Being somewhere that makes you feel safe and comfortable can instill a sense of confidence to express your feelings. It gets rid of the negative stigma of unfamiliarity that comes with being in a counselor’s office.

This environment should help you and your partner be more open with one another, which can only be beneficial for the overall success of the counseling sessions.

Do you find it impossible to communicate without fighting? Contact Couples Counselor San Diego before it’s too late.

You Can Get an Unbiased Perspective

Unbiased perspectives are vital regardless of whether you carry out counseling online or in person. This process is essential for mediating between issues and guaranteeing that you and your partner can reach an agreement, a compromise, and improve or repair the relationship. 

Even though it’s essential for couples to communicate, especially when they are having problems, but if both parties are talking over each other at the same time, then that will not resolve anything at all. Sometimes, individuals can feel attacked, even if that is not the intention. However, by embracing online counseling, the licensed professional can reduce the issue by holding both partners accountable for what they say. If the discussion turns into a verbal sparring match, the counselor can help alleviate the tensions and get the session back on track.

You Can Finish the Sessions With A New Perspective 

Through this unbiased perspective from the counselor’s side, you can finish the sessions with a new point of view. What you may have interpreted the situation before may not be the case, and this is only possible through a successful counseling session.

The sessions can help you understand the strengths and weaknesses of the relationship, and help you apply this knowledge to resolve the next conflict. Rather than get irritated over individual actions, you learn to communicate, understand, and come up with a solution and compromise. These various techniques can help minimize arguments and disagreements to create a robust and healthier bond between you and your partner.

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You Can Find The Time Whenever Possible

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While in-person counseling can be challenging for individuals with busy schedules to attend sessions together, using the online system makes it more convenient to schedule a session. You can carry out the meeting from home or the office, which means that there is never an excuse for missing a session. Before starting, agree on a time and a day, and stick to it to demonstrate your willingness to make positive changes in the relationship. 

With the current COVID-19 pandemic, embracing online couples services from Couples Counselor San Diego can also help estranged couples who are self-isolating or under lock down measures to work through their problems, and to come out feeling happier and more confident about their relationship. 

Furthermore, since many people are not allowed to leave their house for anything other than essentials, the online practice is vital for ensuring a consistent experience, rather than leaving it until things get back to normal. 

Contact Couple Counselors San Diego to help strengthen your relationship during a pandemic


If you and your partner are experiencing a rocky period in your relationship, feel under pressure because of the current pandemic situation, or are trying to work through issues to strengthen the relationship, online couples counseling could be the answer. 

Couples Counselor San Diego is an experienced and compassionate option for couples in the area, so what are you waiting for? Don’t hesitate to get in touch if you feel that online couples counseling could benefit your relationship. 

Related: Counseling In the Convenience of your own Home – Teletherapy

What Is Teletherapy?

What Is Teletherapy?

Teletherapy refers to therapy that is provided by a licensed and certified therapist via a secure video connection. Modern-day technology can now connect pediatric speech, occupational, physical therapists and marriage and family counseling in the safety and comfort of your own home.

  • Teletherapy, also known as online therapy or video counseling, can be an accessible and convenient way to receive counseling.
  • It’s a great alternative for busy, on-the-go people who want the support of a psychotherapist but can’t make it to a therapist’s office. 
  • Enjoy the convenience of benefiting from therapy in the comfort of your home.
  • Teletherapy has been shown to be as effective as in-person therapy when using more directive modalities.

What Is Teletherapy?

Teletherapy with me is video calling using Zoom (HIPPA compliant for privacy) or Telephone consultations.

To arrange your personal telephone consultation with Sarah Ruggera please e-mail your request to or call: 858-735-1139

  • Relationship problems, extramarital affairs, infidelity,affair recovery, jealousy, abuse – sexual, verbal, physical
  • Feelings of stress, fear, worry, anger, or anxiety
  • Career and work issues
  • Feeling sad, down, moody, or depressed
  • Issues of Change, Loss, Death,

  • Stress and burnout
  • Medical problems
  • Elderly parents, dementia
  • Parenting strategies
  • Weight loss
  • Wishing “things” were different, self, relationships, employment


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Counseling Via Zoom

Counseling Via Zoom. Counseling In the Convenience of your own Home – Teletherapy. Most of us are locked down at home during this social isolation due to the COVID-19 virus. Anywhere from 2 weeks to 2 months we will be rearranging our lifestyles. Although being home bound for an unspecific time period can be frustrating, you can turn it into something productive. Spending time with your family is a given. But what about you as an individual? You may want support to be fully available to your family. Just like our automobiles running low on gas, we fill it up. How will you fill up your “emotional gas tank?” I’m offering Teletherapy so you don’t go stir crazy at home and/or “act out” in front of your partner/kids. Role model appropriate behavior so your kids know what to do to self-soothe and manage stressful times.

Counseling Via Zoom

I’m here at your convenience to talk about whatever is bugging you, worrying you, stressing you out. Teletherapy is provided via Google Chat, if you have a Google account and via Zoom or Facebook chat.

I can provide individual sessions or marriage/couples sessions that won’t break your bank account. I know things are already stressful. I’m here to help.

Please contact me at (858) 735-1139 or email me at


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