What Couples Counseling Is All About. As a Couples Counselor, let me tell you what couples counseling is not about. It’s not about taking sides and becoming one of the two partner’s ally while blaming and attacking the other. Getting some couples counseling doesn’t mean your relationship is so bad it won’t work. Divorce or a break up isn’t inevitable. I get it, it’s scary for some as some couples because they think they should be able to fix their problems. They think airing out their dirty laundry is personal and can be embarrassing. Nearly half of couples come to counseling to learn how to better handle conflict. As a Marriage Counselor, the majority of my couples say they need help with communication. Communication includes not being able to initiate conversation, express thoughts and feelings, and ask for want they need and want. They need help managing their emotions when they can’t agree to disagree.
There are many reasons couples go to counseling. To name a few:
Needing communication skills
Needing conflict resolution skills
Looking for a stronger physical connection
Wanting more intimacy for an emotional connection
Wanting to learn new skills to maintain their relationship
Help with decision making
Blended family issues
Change of life issues
Need help with child related concerns
Couples who start their process are pleasantly surprised when they look back at the progress they’ve made and the concrete strategies they’ve learned. Resistance and defensiveness is replaced by empathy, effective communication, and emotional safety
Couples counseling can be effective if both partners are willing to undergo the process with good integrity. Meaning they will put in the effort and do what is required of them to receive their desired outcome.
For more information on couple counseling please give me a call at (858) 735-1139 or visit my website at CouplesCounselorSanDiego.com
